I am not one of the good ones.
Trans acceptance has a nasty habit of being conditional. Even though I check most of the 'reasonable trans person' boxes, you should not assume that my dedication to my rights and those of my community is anything less than absolute.
People who happen to check one or more boxes on the 'member of a minority' list have all had that conversation. You know the one: the other person will beat down on other members of your community, but will say this with a present-company-excepted assumption. You're acceptable (because reasons), but those others aren't (because reasons). There's an old saying from where I was born:
They're all queer except thee and me, but thar's a bit queer.
I know I give the impression of being one of the good ones, for some value of good, but I'd like to challenge that assumption. I match the description of the archetypal trans woman from the textbooks – I knew I was trans from a very young age, around four years old, and had words for it when I was 9. I transitioned at 23. My pronouns are she/her, and always were. I come across as stereotypically female, I'm very rarely read as trans. No, they can't 'always tell', and to be honest I know cis women who are read as trans more often than I am.
But don't let this make you think for a moment that this makes me one of the good ones. My dedication to trans rights – for myself and others – is absolute, and uncompromising.
- Trans women are women, without limitation or compromise.
- Trans men are men, without limitation or compromise.
- Nonbinary people are free to identify however works for them.
- Intersex people are real, and also have the right to self-determination.
- Gender-affirming care should be readily available, at any age, with minimal gatekeeping and wherever practical on an informed consent basis.
- Intersectionality is real, and belonging to multiple minorities is common.
None of this is anything I am prepared to negotiate, or debate. If you choose to push back on this, do not expect me to be nice or kind. I won't be. I am prepared to walk away from any personal acquaintanceship or relationship that tests me on this.
There was a time when I would give benefit of the doubt, but that was before hundreds of millions of dollars were spent to deliberately villify my community, and by extension, me personally. As of now, the beginning of 2026, expect no quarter from me whatsoever. Come at me spouting that expensively-bought propaganda and I will tell you where you can shove it, and if I'm in a particularly irritable mood I'll most likely tell you all about yourself too.